#not about anyone here

[ali3nboyfriend]

worst relationship status to have w someone is “objectively they’re a fine person who is nice but i don’t enjoy their company as much as they enjoy mine”

[tofu-bento-box]

// serious post

here’s the thing i don’t get: people tell you to communicate your feelings, and then react negatively when you feel something they don’t think you should.

i’m ill in six different directions: my feelings are mostly negative and generally illogical. i get upset for reasons that i know don’t matter in the bigger scheme of things. but i can’t express that anger or hurt, because then people think that i am selfish, and entitled, and a bad friend. on the other hand, though, i’m also bad at hiding my feelings, and saying you’re okay when you clearly aren’t is also rude. so it’s just a constant struggle between “how much can i say to make this person feel that i’m answering truthfully, without them deciding i’m a selfish asshole.”

people tell me that you can’t rationalize away your emotions, and then react with disgust when i can’t do that for “the things that matter.” i’m upset. i know i shouldn’t be, i’m upset that i’m upset, but you sitting there judging me isn’t exactly going to help the situation. i know that whatever’s going on with my friends is more important than how it affects me. but then what does selflessness look like? is it not being upset in the first place, or is it just hiding your expression of your hurt? am i incapable of being a good friend because i can’t keep myself from feeling things i shouldn’t?

i just don’t get people sometimes. it’s like everyone has a rulebook for what’s allowed, and they just forgot to give me a copy. i get told communicate, communicate, communicate, over and over, and everyone forgets to mention what i’m meant to be conveying. because sometimes it really seems that what they want isn’t the truth.

[tannuki-in-training]

hey guys :))))) when a disabled person asks for accommodations :)) can we stop saying "oh i just want to push you outside of your comfort zone a little!" please? :))))) thanks :))

[millerflintstone]

You have to wonder about a newish couple when the primary social media posts that get shared center around alcohol

[orbees]

I should be paid 1 million dollars everytime I see a really bad post and suppress the urge to write a 938484 page rant about it. even though it is so so bad.

[killerwithknife]

you’re a fake fan and a fraud I hope a big plank falls on your head

[hotvampireadjacent]

I still love you

[goldenspirits]

Do you ever look at someone and think "It's gonna hurt so much when we (inevitably) stop being friends"?

[lilyblossoming]

ok this person isnt replying so im assuming our plans are off (we were going to go to look at sanrio stuff)

[scrumblewonk]

okay whatever i have more badges than you AND my blog is more aesthetic

[swordsoprano]

we have this discourse every week aren’t you fucking Tired

idk. just. for me “this particular character is written in a way that often makes her come across as unsympathetic, and intentional or not that’s fucked up” feels like a way more interesting, and productive, conversation to have than “if you don’t like this character then you’re a bigot.” especially because we have the “if you don’t like this character then you’re a bigot” conversation Fucking Constantly (about this particular character and about other characters) and for some people (definitely not everyone, but some people) it comes across as wanting an excuse to be mean more than it does as any sort of drive for justice, or compassion for other people, or anything of that sort.

and, like, i’m well aware that getting individual fans to look at things with more nuance is at least sometimes possible, while yelling at a major company over a ten-year-old piece of media isn’t going to do anything. i’m not proposing a solution or anything. i am just. so fucking tired of discourse.

[abuzd]

hmmmmmmmmmm i think. i need 2curse some ppl (u don’t know who u are lol)

[gunkpup]

experiencing a loss of someone else's system is so complicated. ive been friends w this person for months and knowing they are gone is so... idk. ill just miss her.

im not a system myself, just friends with multiple. /info

[unicornery]

They need to make a pamphlet like “So, you were too nice to someone at first and now want to recalibrate that way down” because people are basically terrible at it!!

[dogfagdeathwish]

making plans to hang out with people is like oughhhhh i want to hang out and whatever but also like this makes me want to strip the flesh from my bones

[kingsmakers]

I think some people spend so much time online that they forget they’re speaking to other human beings. There’s a huge lack of compassion and understanding, and a complete willingness to be as vicious as they like because it’s someone behind a screen. Some of y’all need to develop conflict resolution skills, or touch some grass. Fucking hell.